You know that saying…You are the average of the five people you most associate with? That is why it is SO important to find your tribe.
For so long, you’ve been pondering what to do with yourself because you’ve known that you want a change…a new interest…something to bring passion back into your life. You decide to discover what that is and after some time, you finally unearth what you want to do. Eagerly you dive in, knowing this is exactly what you’re supposed to be doing with your life.
It’s like you struck a match, ignited a flame and you’re feeling on fire!
Friday rolls around and you’re out socially, chatting about life, enthusiastically sharing your newfound dream, but instead of being uplifted, you leave feeling drained and uninspired. That fire in your belly you walked in with, is now the ache of an ashen pile of dreams heavy in your gut.
When people around you don’t understand what you’re doing, they may tell you it makes no sense….not to sabotage your efforts, but because it’s so far out of their wheelhouse. It’s not an intentional buzz-kill, rather, they just aren’t in the same place and don’t share your vision.
Not being supported can feel pretty lonely. But when you find your tribe…this whole scenario becomes vastly different.
What is a tribe?
Whenever I think of a tribe I think of the morning run group I was part of prior to moving to California. What a great example of a tribe! A bunch of people meeting up in the dark, wee hours of the morning to run endless miles together through the streets of Dayton, Ohio. Talking pace, PRs, GI distress at mile 23, the exhausting climb of Heartbreak Hill at the Boston Marathon and a plan for the long run on Saturday, we bonded through our love of running and racing.
To many neighbors, we were obnoxiously disrupting the tranquility of the morning while taking up too much room on the street. Those that didn’t run, found our conversations boring and it made absolutely no sense to them at all, how we could think running 26.2 miles was fun. But for someone passionate about running, it was often, the best time of the day. Pounding the pavement with like-minded people provided hours of encouragement and challenged us to improve. Personally, they pushed me far beyond where I ever thought capable in the running world and for that, I am forever grateful for my time with them.
Why it’s Important
In Jen Sincero’s book, You are a Badass, she says…
“Stay away from people with tiny minds and tiny thoughts and start hanging out with people who see limitless possibility as the reality. Surround yourself with people who act on their big ideas, who take action on making positive change in the world and who see nothing as out of their reach.”
She continues to say…
“Be clear on whom you want to meet and make a concerted effort to go meet them. Demand of The Universe to connect you with them, think of places where they might hang out or things they would do and insert yourself there. Being around inspired, visionary, enthusiastic people who are living their truths is one of the fastest ways to massively transform your life.”
And transform your life, it will!
Choosing Your Tribe
Your goal may have nothing to do with running. Maybe what’s tugging at your soul is art, yoga, music, exploring spirituality, starting a business or making a career change. I know that when I started working on myself, dreaming about writing and coaching, the more I focused on it and sought out like-minded people, the more opportunities came my way.
Whatever it is, go find people who are doing what you want to do. Seek out local groups or clubs in your area where you can meet others with a similar pursuit. You can always hop on social media and find people on the same path. Follow them and see who they follow. Engage in the conversations, comment, join Facebook groups and put yourself out there.
Before long, you’ll discover a whole new world of dreamers, doers and encouragers and begin to see that you’re not alone.
You’ll want to spend less time with unsupportive people in your circle, but as you begin to connect, floodgates will open, allowing new people into your life. It’s happened to me. I now have inspiring friends that I barely new one year ago, yet they’ve become an integral part of my journey.
In a tribe, you can regularly converse about common interests, kick around new ideas and hold one another accountable. You can share books and resources or attend events together. They’ll be a constant source of motivation, daring you to dream bigger and they won’t let you revert back to fear or self-doubt. They will elevate your energy, propelling your efforts.
When you have big things to accomplish, find your tribe! It will truly make a difference.
I’m grateful for the tribes I’ve found and I’d be happy to help you find yours.
Be part of my tribe…
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“Surround yourself with the dreamers, and the doers, the believers, and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.”
~ Edmund Lee